akhiran 'WHY I WANT A WIFE'

J U D Y   B R A D Y
I Want a Wife (1971)

I belong to that classification of people known as wives. I am A Wife. And, not altogether incidentally, I am a mother. 

Not too long ago a male friend of mine appeared on the scene fresh from a

recent divorce. He had one child, who is, of course, with his ex-wife. He is looking for another wife. As I thought about him while I was ironing one evening, it

suddenly occurred to me that I, too, would like to have a wife. Why do I want a

wife? 

I would like to go back to school so that I can become economically independent, support myself, and, if need be, support those dependent upon me. I

want a wife who will work and send me to school. And while I am going to school

I want a wife to take care of my children. I want a wife to keep track of the children’s doctor and dentist appointments. And to keep track of mine, too.

 I want a wife to make sure my children eat properly and are kept clean. I want a wife who

will wash the children’s clothes and keep them mended. I want a wife who is a

good nurturant attendant to my children, who arranges for their schooling,

makes sure that they have an adequate social life with their peers, takes them to

the park, the zoo, etc. I want a wife who takes care of the children when they are

sick, a wife who arranges to be around when the children need special care, because, of course, I cannot miss classes at school. My wife must arrange to lose

time at work and not lose the job. It may mean a small cut in my wife’s income

from time to time, but I guess I can tolerate that. Needless to say, my wife will

arrange and pay for the care of the children while my wife is working.

I want a wife who will take care of my physical needs. I want a wife who will

keep my house clean. A wife who will pick up after my children, a wife who will

pick up after me. I want a wife who will keep my clothes clean, ironed, mended,

replaced when need be, and who will see to it that my personal things are kept in

their proper place so that I can find what I need the minute I need it. I want a

wife who cooks the meals, a wife who is a good cook. I want a wife who will plan

the menus, do the necessary grocery shopping, prepare the meals, serve them

pleasantly, and then do the cleaning up while I do my studying. I want a wife who

will care for me when I am sick and sympathize with my pain and loss of time

from school. I want a wife to go along when our family takes a vacation so that

someone can continue to care for me and my children when I need a rest and

change of scene.

I want a wife who will not bother me with rambling complaints about a
wife’s duties. But I want a wife who will listen to me when I feel the need to explain a rather difficult point I have come across in my course of studies. And I
want a wife who will type my papers for me when I have written them.


I want a wife who will take care of the details of my social life. When my wife
and I are invited out by my friends, I want a wife who will take care of the
babysitting arrangements. When I meet people at school that I like and want to
entertain, I want a wife who will have the house clean, will prepare a special meal,
serve it to me and my friends, and not interrupt when I talk about things that interest me and my friends. I want a wife who will have arranged that the children
are fed and ready for bed before my guests arrive so that the children do not
bother us. I want a wife who takes care of the needs of my guests so that they feel
comfortable, who makes sure that they have an ashtray, that they are passed the
hors d’oeuvres, that they are offered a second helping of the food, that their wine
glasses are replenished when necessary, that their coffee is served to them as they
like it. And I want a wife who knows that sometimes I need a night out by myself.


I want a wife who is sensitive to my sexual needs, a wife who makes love passionately and eagerly when I feel like it, a wife who makes sure that I am satisfied.
And, of course, I want a wife who will not demand sexual attention when I am
not in the mood for it. I want a wife who assumes the complete responsibility for
birth control, because I do not want more children. I want a wife who will remain
sexually faithful to me so that I do not have to clutter up my intellectual life with
jealousies. And I want a wife who understands that my sexual needs may entail
more than strict adherence to monogamy. I must, after all, be able to relate to
people as fully as possible.


If, by chance, I find another person more suitable as a wife than the wife I already have, I want the liberty to replace my present wife with another one. Naturally, I will expect a fresh new life; my wife will take the children and be solely responsible for them so that I am left free.


When I am through with school and have a job, I want my wife to quit working and remain at home so that my wife can more fully and completely take care
of a wife’s duties.


My God, who wouldn’t want a wife?



Pagi tadi ada kelas bahasa Inggeris (BEL), at the end of the class my lecturer(perempuan) said "OK, turn to page 313.. i will read it for u.."


selingan, bagi diorang school tu universiti..


 lepas tu dia pn baca la sampai habis..
then, dia tanya kitorg apa yang Judy Brady ni nk cuba sampai kn apa?..conclusion? inference?




ada yang jawab "wife responsiblity"
maybe ada dlm hati ckp "lesbian.."
ada yang ckp "duties of wife"
macam2 lagi yang diteka....bla..bla...bla...panjang lebar jwpn..




lastly...


my lecturer said..


wrong...


wrong...


wrong...


wrong..(sambil geleng kepala) (utk semua jawapan)


aku pun pikir..pe kebenda jawapan yang dia nk... dh semua jawapan salah..


pastu madam ckp,


"A husband do not do anything actually"
.
"right???"


#tersenyap semua..


Then, semua perempuan gelak..


Lelaki semua tunduk....


:))


(sarcasm)

Petang di melaka

owh tidak.sunyi dlm rumah.semuanye balik. sob3.. tomorrow ade raptai konvo and amik jubah.nexweek is my big day (convocation)..tak buleh nak balik sgt sebb last week dh blk.taknak la menyusahkn parents nk hantar blk melaka lagi.. bukan tak boleh balik sendiri naek bus kn,tp my parents apa2 pn akan nak hantar gak. Kesian la kt dorg.lagi pun my beloved sis voluteer nk amik kn jubah. thank u akak :) so, plan for this week just balik kampung je.hihi. teman nenek kampung and mane tawu nak tolong2 pakcik aku yg bakal berkahwin penghujung mei ni (edar2 kad/kemas rumah sikit) hihihi.


so, aku di bilik hanya berteman kt laptop dan mengonlinekan apa2 yang patut, jap lagi baru gerak blk kampung..dokek jo,kt melaka jugak :P


ini adalah pandangan melaka pada pukul 6 :P terik matahari yang mencengkam.huhu

dan ini jalan raya yang amat sibuk sebelah kolej

(sila abaikan loji tu) :P

p/s : cool....enjoy your weekend :P

kematangan

Bila kita berhadapan dengan masalah, ia adalah satu proses kematangan. Walaupun pahit ditelan, kita tetap harus dan mesti mengharunginya.


Kuatkan iman, kuatkan hati.


Sekuat mana kita menangis, semarah mana kita pun, masalah tetap masalah.


Ada orang kata ---> jangan meratapi masalah tersebut (menangis,berfikir terus menerus,meraung dan etc) TETAPI carilah jalan penyelesaian sebab meratapi masalah tersebut tak mendatangkan apa2 kesan dan tidak dapat menyelesaikannya. 


Pengalaman mematangkan seseorang.
Masalah adalah kehidupan.
Tidak ada orang dlm dunia ini tak ada masalah.


Someone was said to me..until today i still remember..he said "pengalaman dan masalah tidak mematangkan seseorang"..
Do u agree with him?
i do not agree.because when you have many experiences in handling so much problems, it will teach you to be great person and improve your personal behaviour and attitudes towards life. You have learn something in your life.


p/s : in my opinion.

liberalisme

Pensyarah aku menyarankan studentnya berfikir secara liberalisme.. 

 Liberalisme menekankan hak-hak peribadi serta kesamarataan peluang. Dalam fahaman liberalisme, pelbagai aliran dengan nama "liberal" mungkin mempunyai dasar dan pandangan yang berlainan, tetapi secara umumnya aliran-aliran ini bersetuju dengan prinsip-prinsip berikut termasuk kebebasan berfikir dan kebebasan bersuara, batasan kepada kuasa kerajaan, kedaulatan undang-undang, hak individu ke atas harta persendirian, pasaran bebas dan ketelusan sistem pemerintahan.

*prinsip kebebasan adalah berbeza mengikut negara

liberalisme yang dimaksudkan tidak lah sehingga menyokong lesbian, gay, biseksual dan sama waktu dengannya dan yang paling penting tidak melangkaui batas2 agama dan undang2 negara...tapi lebih kepada pemikiran yang lebih kreatif, bebas dan adil. 

Bila difikirkan,

BETUL..

kerana dari pandangan mcm tu dan pemikiran mcm tu kita dapat melihat kehidupan manusia ini dari sudut pengadilan dan lebih menjurus kpd kemanusiaan. Bayangkan jika tiada pemikiran seperti itu, kita masih duduk di bwh tempurung dan mengikut seperti lembu dicucuk hidung...

TETAPI,

Pemikiran seperti ini jika tidak dikawal akan mendatangkan kemudaratan kerana melihat kebebasan tersebut hanya utk kepentingan sendiri dan hawa nafsu shj. 

Adakah salah bagi rakyat menyatakan pandangan dan menyatakan prinsip mereka??

Manusia diciptakan bukan dengan sama prinsip dan sama pemikiran. malah manusia dilahirkan dengan akal yang boleh berfikir dan melihat dengan adil. 

Jadi, tidak salah apa yang dikatakan oleh penyarah aku.

Liberalisme jika dipraktikkan dalam diri pelajar, pandangan mereka lebih luas, pemikiran mereka lebih kreatif dan terbuka tanpa dikongkong dengan pemikiran yang sempit dan 'diktator'.

this is his statement : 

"  pentadbiran rights and liberties berbeza mengikut undang undang tiap tiap negara.......rights and liberties are subject to municipal or national laws......."

"janganlah hendaknya kita menjadi mangsa.......sama juga dengan kemelut politik yang mendepani bangsa kita hari ini.......selidik sejauh mana yang kita mampu.......ambil lah yang paling jernih setelah maklumat itu di turas.......sementara di menara gading yang membenarkan kita liberal dalam mnerima maklumat.........nanti bila hidup menjadi semakin menekan....soal periuk nasi dan kesejahteraan keluarga menjadi variable utama........keputusan keputusan kita lebih cenderung kepada self preservation ( macam ahli ahli politik dewasa ini)maka kejayaan seorang manusia menghadapi ujian allah ialah sejauh mana dia berpegang kepada prinsip prinsip kebenaran.........itulah matlamat dan natijahnya utama ilmu."

when the time pass by

you know you can do it
you learn from it
you try to fix it
you do everything,
you gain and loss something,

finally you get what you need, not what you want. It is more better..
and says
Alhamdulillah..